Entries by Jay & Laura

Sex? Check it off the list

“Ladies, this one is for you. Listen closely, sex is NOT a CHORE! Stop treating it that way. So many times we have seen a married couple portrayed as the husband wanting sex and the wife continually acting annoyed because of it. Picture it, the husband and wife are laying down in bed and the […]

Forgive So That You Might Be Forgiven!

What did Jesus come to do? He came to forgive! Luke 6:37 NIV states, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” If we are going to build a marriage around the person of Jesus, then as Ruth Bell […]

Do you do devotions together?

We get asked this question ALL the time: “Jay and Laura, do you do devotions together and don’t you think a husband and wife should?” The answer is no and no. Now before you go and think we are not spiritual or shallow, let me give you my thoughts on this question. First, Jay and […]

Staying Best Friends With Your Spouse

Think back to what it was that first attracted you to your spouse. You may have met participating in a sport, hobby, or class. You may have met on a blind date. Whatever the scenario, marriage resulted because you enjoyed being with each other. You liked each other and you became and remained friends. In […]

3 Keys For Marriage Ministry

As we speak to people about marriage, we find it ironic how quickly they all agree that marriage is under attack in our country. They agree that marriage is the foundation of family, church, community and our nation. They agree the church should be addressing marriage needs. But when we ask what their church is […]

Why Social Media Is Killing Your Love Life

My (Jay’s) mom has a famous saying: “Sorry, kiddo, there’s no perfection in this world!” Mostly, she said that to me when I was disappointed because my expectations went unmet. Unmet expectations can be a real killer in relationships, and they are exacerbated by our culture and its obsession with social media, comparison and perfectionism. […]

Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

Divorce is not an option. Does that statement ring true to your heart and mind? Yes? No? Either way, there are habits that will help you to divorce-proof your marriage. So whether your relationship is rolling along smoothly or you are walking through a tough time in your marriage, here are three habits you can begin today. Fifteen […]

Celebrate Your Marriage In 2017

Most of us establish new goals in January. We begin diets to lose the holiday pounds. We exercise with renewed vigor to keep our heart healthy. We make financial goals. But have you ever set goals and gained a new vision for your marriage? As the adage says, if you shoot for nothing, that is […]

Make It A December To Remember

This year make the Christmas season truly memorable. Turn this holiday season into the year you look back on 20 years from now and say, “2016 is the year it all started!” Here are some simple steps to get headed in the right direction. Start Christmas Traditions Some traditions involve food. For example, in our house Laura makes fudge on […]

Go Hunting For Your Wife

I (Jay) did not grow up a hunter. However, a few years ago some buddies of mine from Compassion International asked me to go on a pheasant hunt in South Dakota. At first I declined, admitting I did not know the least bit about pheasant hunting. But my friend Steve insisted it was no big deal and I […]