Entries by Jay & Laura

Why Social Media Is Killing Your Love Life

My (Jay’s) mom has a famous saying: “Sorry, kiddo, there’s no perfection in this world!” Mostly, she said that to me when I was disappointed because my expectations went unmet. Unmet expectations can be a real killer in relationships, and they are exacerbated by our culture and its obsession with social media, comparison and perfectionism. […]

Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

Divorce is not an option. Does that statement ring true to your heart and mind? Yes? No? Either way, there are habits that will help you to divorce-proof your marriage. So whether your relationship is rolling along smoothly or you are walking through a tough time in your marriage, here are three habits you can begin today. Fifteen […]

Celebrate Your Marriage In 2017

Most of us establish new goals in January. We begin diets to lose the holiday pounds. We exercise with renewed vigor to keep our heart healthy. We make financial goals. But have you ever set goals and gained a new vision for your marriage? As the adage says, if you shoot for nothing, that is […]

Make It A December To Remember

This year make the Christmas season truly memorable. Turn this holiday season into the year you look back on 20 years from now and say, “2016 is the year it all started!” Here are some simple steps to get headed in the right direction. Start Christmas Traditions Some traditions involve food. For example, in our house Laura makes fudge on […]

Go Hunting For Your Wife

I (Jay) did not grow up a hunter. However, a few years ago some buddies of mine from Compassion International asked me to go on a pheasant hunt in South Dakota. At first I declined, admitting I did not know the least bit about pheasant hunting. But my friend Steve insisted it was no big deal and I […]

Take The Just-Because Challenge

Every May and October, we host a marriage conference at Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island, Michigan. The 130-year-old wood-frame hotel, with over 380 uniquely decorated rooms and a front porch that is more than two football fields in length, looks out over the straits of Mackinac. It is the perfect romantic setting for couples to […]

A Simple Way To Build Intimacy In Marriage

We live in Michigan, and in Michigan, Labor Day marks the “official” end of summer. School starts the day after Labor Day, and it feels like a fresh start for us all. We would like to challenge you to a fresh start by adding a new habit to your marriage – dating! The following is […]

Beat the Dog Days of Summer as a Couple

We know, we know, we know … when will these kids go back to school! August can be a rough time in the life of a family. In June we cannot wait for the drudgery of the school routine to be done, but by the Fourth of July, we start wondering when these kids are gonna go back to school. When August hits, parents can literally be […]

Masquerading as the ordinary is exhausting

I (Laura) love collecting all the catalogs that come in over the week and taking time on Saturday to look through them all very diligently to make sure I am not missing anything I might need! Perusing the catalog is cheaper than going to the actual store. I mark the items I love and must […]

Declare A State Of Interdependence!

This month we celebrate Independence Day. We can all be thankful for the courage and foresight of our country’s founding fathers. What a privilege to live free. In marriage, however, independence can be a destructive force that pulls a couple apart rather than brings them closer together. A better word for marriage would be interdependence. Dictionary.com defines interdependence as “the quality or […]