A Bee Epidemic! Don’t Get Stung In Your Marriage!

Don’t Get Stung In Your Marriage!

A Bee Epidemic!  We have had a problem with bees, specifically yellow jackets, this summer! They built a huge hive in a tree in our backyard. They were working on building two more in the gutters of the house, and behind an electrical outlet!

Jay and I thought about taking care of the problem ourselves. I mean how hard could it be to get some bee spray and just kill them!

The further we investigated the quicker decided that the problem was bigger than we could handle.

We called an expert! He had to make several visits but the problem is solved.

Many of us have problems in our marriage. Problems we think we can handle. Only to discover there are bigger than we thought. We cannot be afraid to call an expert! Don’t let your marriage get “stung”! If you are experiencing some difficulties in your marriage, please seek out an expert.

If you need a place to turn and find an expert we can help!  Join us over on Facebook, send us and email!  We would love to connect with you!


Disposable Relationships

So can someone explain to me how we have become a culture of disposable relationships?! Every week I hear of some other couple that has decided to call it quits. The ones that hit home the hardest are those of friends, or even just acquaintances,but people that I know on some personal level. Here is what I do know…the marriage did not get to this point overnight. It takes years of dysfunction to get to the quitting part. Years of lack of communication. Years of lack of intimacy. Years of leading separate lives. Here is another fact I know…there is help! Read more

Going to Church Can Save Your Marriage

Christians aren’t perfect…

But going to Church can save your marriage!

For years now we’ve loved to read the work of Harvard trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn.  She’s just concluded an 8 year study on divorce in the church!

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Women vs. Men

This was forwarded to us by one of our good friends.  Great laugh for the day…
Women vs. Men
INSTRUCTIONS: Ladies, Read Only The First Part — Men, read to The End!
 A woman was out golfing one day when she hit the ball into the woods. She went into the woods to look for it and found a frog in a trap. The frog said to her, “If you release me from this trap, I will grant you three wishes.”
 The woman freed the frog, and the frog said, “Thank you, but I failed to mention that there was a condition to your wishes. Whatever you wish for, your husband will get times ten!”
 The woman said, “That’s okay.” For her first wish, she wanted to be the most beautiful woman in the world.
 The frog warned her, “You do realize that this wish will also make your husband the most handsome man in the world, an Adonis to whom women will flock.”
 The woman replied, “That’s okay, because I will be the most beautiful woman and he will have eyes only for me.”
 So, SHAZAM! — she’s the most beautiful woman in the world!
 For her second wish, she wanted to be the richest woman in the world. The frog said, “That will make your husband the richest man in the world. And he will be ten times richer than you.”
 The woman said, “That’s okay, because what’s mine is his and what’s his is mine.”
 So, SHAZAM! — she’s the richest woman in the world!
 The frog then inquired about her third wish, and she answered, “I’d like a mild heart attack.”
 Moral of the story: Women are clever. Don’t mess with them.
 Attention female readers: This is the end of the joke for you. Stop here and continue feeling good.
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Male readers only – continue reading …
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 So, SHAZAM! The man had a heart attack ten times milder than his wife.
 Moral of the story: Women think they’re so smart. Let them continue to think that way and just enjoy the show.
 PS: If you are a woman and are still reading this, it only goes to show that women never listen!

Hammer and a Nail

A great lesson for those of us (Jay) with anger issues~~

Ron, a 9-year old boy, was being raised by his mother who didn’t know how to cope with his uncontrollable temper. She knew he was angry that his father had abandoned him and she tried professional counseling, but nothing seemed to work.

So she sent Ron to spend the summer on his grandparent’s farm. When he came home, he was a changed boy. His mom asked him what happened and he told her that every time he got mad or said anything unkind, Grandpa made him go outside and hammer a big two-inch nail into a two by four. It was hard, and he wasn’t allowed back until the nail was all the way in. After about 20 trips to the shed to get the tools, he decided it was easier to control his temper than hammer those long nails.

“Did you change because you hated the consequences so much?” she asked. “Well, that was part of it,” he said. “After I’d nailed in all the nails and was behaving better, Grandma took me outside and made me pull them out. That was even harder. When I was done, she gave me this note.” He showed it to her, and this is what she read:

“Pulling out the nails is like saying you’re sorry. But the holes still remain in the board. You can’t fix things by being sorry, but you can stop making new holes. Remember, every time you do something mean and nasty, you’re making a hole somewhere in someone. That’s what your dad did to you. Please don’t do it to anyone else. You’re better than that.”

Walking this journey together~Jay

Speaking Foreign Languages…With the Exact Same Words

By now most people get the fact that men and women are different. THANK GOODNESS! No one needs to read another book about “planets”. Married people just want to know what certain words mean to our spouse. So in our never ending attempts to help couples communicate we thought we’d give you a head start on some important words which hold duel meanings for men and women.

Eight Words with Two Meanings
1. THINGY (thing-ee) n.
Female…… Any part under a car’s hood
Male….. The strap fastener on my wife’s bra

2. VULNERABLE (vul-ne-ra-bel) adj.
Female…. Fully opening up one’s self emotionally to my husband
Male….. Playing football without a cup3.

COMMUNICATION (ko-myoo-ni-kay-shon) n.
Female… The open sharing of thoughts and feelings with one’s spouse
Male… Leaving a note before taking off on a fishing trip with the boys

4. COMMITMENT (ko-mit-ment) n
Female…. A desire to get married and raise a family
Male…… Buying season tickets to the Chicago Cubs.

5. ENTERTAINMENT (en-ter-tayn-ment) n.
Female…. A good movie, concert, play or book
Male…… Anything that can be done while watching TV

6. FLATULENCE (flach-u-lens) n.
Female…. An embarrassing byproduct of indigestion
Male…… A source of entertainment, self-expression, male bonding.

7. REMOTE CONTROL (ri-moht kon-trohl) n.
Female…. A device for changing from one TV channel to another
Male…. A device for scanning through all 375 channels every 5 minutes.

8. MAKING LOVE (may-king luv) n.
Female…… The greatest expression of intimacy a couple can achieve.
Male… Call it whatever you want, just as long as we do it.

There you have it…we’re here to help!

Honey, I Am Home!

You can tell a lot about how your wife’s day went, simply observing the atmosphere in your home.  Believe me when I tell you, how her day went whether at work or at home, will affect the the atmosphere!  Observe a few items…

1. Her face- smiling, frowning, growling, or laughing?
2. Her posture – straight or slumped?

If you simply observe those two items and act accordingly, you will go a long way in communicating “I love you”

You may be thinking “ What do you mean act accordingly!?”  I am here to help. If you observe a smile and laughing- you are good to go! However, if you observe frowning and growling, you will want to tread lightly.  Don’t walk into the house all smiles and laughter! You might think that opposites attract but they don’t, they collide!  Instead, offer your services.  “Can I help you with dinner?”  or even better might be “where would you like to go for dinner?”  Now unfortunately, gentleman, I would love to tell you that this will work with every woman, but it won’t. You know your wife better than I do, but I can tell you this, what works for one won’t necessarily work for another. Reality is this, going out to dinner might work for one woman, where a simple hug and a shoulder to lean on works for another.  I can only help you so much then you must go it on your own!

The point is this, sense the atmosphere in your home when you walk in the door and then act accordingly.

Are You BFF’s With Him?

I (Laura) suspect many of us have never thought about being socially intimate with our spouses. In fact, in our survey we frequently received this answer “I’m not sure what you mean by Social Intimacy.”

We begin dating and we enjoy this person’s companionship. We have common interests. We are friends. Then somewhere along the line we fall in love. For some it happens quickly, for others over time, but we begin to discover that we’ve become more than friends. We become lovers. For some reason when this happens, very often, we cease being friends.

Here is my question for you today, “what keeps you from dating your spouse?”