A Bee Epidemic! Don’t Get Stung In Your Marriage!

Don’t Get Stung In Your Marriage!

A Bee Epidemic!  We have had a problem with bees, specifically yellow jackets, this summer! They built a huge hive in a tree in our backyard. They were working on building two more in the gutters of the house, and behind an electrical outlet!

Jay and I thought about taking care of the problem ourselves. I mean how hard could it be to get some bee spray and just kill them!

The further we investigated the quicker decided that the problem was bigger than we could handle.

We called an expert! He had to make several visits but the problem is solved.

Many of us have problems in our marriage. Problems we think we can handle. Only to discover there are bigger than we thought. We cannot be afraid to call an expert! Don’t let your marriage get “stung”! If you are experiencing some difficulties in your marriage, please seek out an expert.

If you need a place to turn and find an expert we can help!  Join us over on Facebook, send us and email!  We would love to connect with you!

 

Disposable Relationships

So can someone explain to me how we have become a culture of disposable relationships?! Every week I hear of some other couple that has decided to call it quits. The ones that hit home the hardest are those of friends, or even just acquaintances,but people that I know on some personal level. Here is what I do know…the marriage did not get to this point overnight. It takes years of dysfunction to get to the quitting part. Years of lack of communication. Years of lack of intimacy. Years of leading separate lives. Here is another fact I know…there is help! Read more

Sex and Kitchen Appliances

When we stood at the altar on that memorable day and said “I do,” how many of us can honestly say that we knew what love was? For some it was an ooey gooey feeling in the pit of their stomach. For others it was the hormones that drove them crazy. As Jay and I began our life together, I can remember clearly thinking that I had married an “animal.” Our views on intimate life were at opposite ends of the spectrum. For me, intimacy was all about taking walks together, eating together, shopping together. He was all about…well, you know what he was all about!

 

I grew up in a very proper southern home. The word “sex” was non-existent. Now, I had married a man who thought about it all the time. As we deliberated on how to communicate our differing needs to one another, Jay expressed a word picture to illustrate his point of view “Laura, sex to me is like the air I breathe.” I promptly told him to go find an oxygen tank!

Needless to say, intimacy is a huge issue in every marriage. One of us desires affection more than the other; one desires sexual intimacy more than the other. Our appetites and tastes are very different. (By the way when I get to heaven one of my first questions is going to be why God made men and women such complete opposites!)


I have a word picture that may make these differences easier to grasp.   Gentlemen, wives are like Crock-Pots. We’re like slow cookers, that take time to cook, sometimes taking all day. First thing in the morning we need to be connected to the power source and then let us cook all day. Understand though, that if you unplug the Crock-Pot through harsh words or actions, you may have to start all over… tomorrow! Men, however, are microwaves. You just punch in the time and they are ready to go!

So there are two lessons to be learned…

Men be patient, put in the time and effort for a slow cook.

Women be willing to jump in with the heat on high, a little more often.

Celebrate Your Marriage with Special Guests Peter Brooks and Shannyn Caldwell

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What a great time we had with our guests Peter Brooks and Shannyn Caldwell from Family Life Radio – on Jay & Laura TV!

Creating Priorities

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On Jay & Laura TV – Creating Priorities. Plus a technology challenge. What’s your response? Tell us on our Facebook page – http://www.facebook.com/jayandlauralaffoon

Merry Christmas Tip 5

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The final tip from Jay & Laura for the holiday season is the topic of this week’s #JnLTV. Does the week between Christmas and New years feel as sullen to you as it does to us? Well kick the holiday blues with these family tips!

Merry Christmas Tip 4

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Find some time to focus – this week on Jay & Laura TV. Also, Jay and Laura pray for the families and community of Newtown, CT.

Tell us ways you find focus time during the holidays at http://www.facebook.com/jayandlauralaffoon

Merry Christmas Tip 3

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The third Christmas Tip from Jay & Laura is about the act of giving gifts. Its a big part of the Christmas season! Do it in a way that will let your spouse know you care.