What did Jesus come to do? He came to forgive! Luke 6:37 NIV states, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” If we are going to build a marriage around the person of Jesus, then as Ruth Bell Graham says, “Good marriages are made of two great forgivers!” Again, not talking about forgiving the big things, although that is a must, we often forget to forgive those little daily annoyances!
I married a drama king – The leftover hot chili episode.
Have you heard of the movie, “Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen?” Well, here is my movie, “Confessions of a woman married to a middle age drama King!” Seriously, I am married to a drama king! Don’t believe me? I had made chili one night for dinner and for lunch the next day asked Jay if he would mind leftovers. “Sure!” He said. So I heated us up some leftover chili for lunch. I put it nice bowls, laid out nice placemats, lit a candle, I mean hey it was leftovers, but it could be a nice lunch. I called Jay down from the office for lunch and he said, “Ohhh, it all looks nice honey!” He sat down, and took one sip of his chili and the atmosphere went right out the window. You burned my mouth! Why did you make this so hot, you know I have a tender tongue! He stood up pushed away the chili, spilling it and stomping around the kitchen, complaining about the hot chili on his tender tongue!
This is what we have to forgive! We have to forgive when the chili is too hot and when our spouse makes a simple mistake something bigger than it actually is! Ladies and gentlemen, a good marriage is made up of two great forgivers. We forgive because Jesus has forgiven us!
So remember that forgiveness walks on two legs. The first leg is repentance. In order for the forgiveness process to begin we have to have a repentant heart. Genuine repentance breeds forgiveness.
The second leg is Grace. When true repentance is shown it allows Grace to step in and do its job, namely forgiving without expectation. We live in a world where every action seems to have “strings attached”. Strengthen your marriage by regularly practicing genuine repentance and God sent Grace.
How great a God that forgives us all the little simple mistakes we make.