This year make the Christmas season truly memorable. Turn this holiday season into the year you look back on 20 years from now and say, “2016 is the year it all started!” Here are some simple steps to get headed in the right direction.
Start Christmas Traditions
Some traditions involve food. For example, in our house Laura makes fudge on the day after Thanksgiving, then she stingily doles it out over the next month. Another food tradition is Christmas brunch. After we have opened the presents, we dine on Jay’s mom’s sausage-and-rice casserole and Laura’s world-famous cheese grits.
Maybe your tradition is something you do, such as spending Christmas Eve at Grandma’s or driving around after the Christmas Eve service to look at the lights in your town. We make hot chocolate, turn off all the lights in the house except for the tree lights, and talk about the meaning of Christmas and our favorite memories.
Make Time for Your Marriage
Christmas is a busy season, and it can make us forget about the important relationships in our life – especially our marriages. Christmas concerts and parties can have us running around like a chicken with its head cut off.
Socrates once said, “Beware the barreness of a busy life.” Do not let this season become so busy that your marriage relationship feels barren. Put a date night or two on the calendar, and then defend them to the hilt. You will not regret it. Those moments will give you a breather from the chaos and make the season shine.
Pick the Right Gift
My (Jay) love language is not gifts. I do not particularly need to get gifts, and I have never seen how they make people feel loved – until I married a woman whose primary love language is gifts. What Laura helped me see is that giving a gift is not about the size or the cost; it is about how much thought went into picking out the gift. The more thought I put into the gift I choose, the more she feels loved.
For me, gift giving is just about getting the next new toy. Whether gifts are important to your spouse or not, do not forget that gifts will always say “I love you!” So get your spouse one that will make their day.
Take these three steps and begin your journey to make this a December to remember!