Women, here are four phrases your husband needs to hear from you that will make him feel loved, appreciated, and honored.
1. I’m Proud of You
From the earliest memories men were imprinted with a proud mom when he’d walk or learn to tie a shoe or clean his room. While you are not his MOM, as his wife you need to understand the way your approval lifts him up. Does it have to be the word “proud?” No, but here are some examples of what I mean:
- “Honey, I love the way you keep my car cleaned and gassed.”
- “Thanks for going to that job I know you don’t like, it takes genuine character.”
- “I love how you play with our kids, it makes me proud to be your wife.”
Hearing these types of phrases from you will help your husband bond with you on an emotional level.
2. I Need _________ From You
Your husband wants nothing more than to make you happy. However, he is not a mind reader and he doesn’t get subtle hints or innuendoes…oh and one more thing…he doesn’t “just know.” It’s not how God wired him.
What he needs from you is clear and concise communication. For example, if you say, “Honey, will you take out the trash?” To him that means at some point in the future he will take out the trash, it just may be tomorrow! If you want him to take out the trash now, then the proper way to communicate is to say, “Honey, will you take out the trash now?” Then he will answer “yes” or “no.”
Communicating in a clear and concise manner accomplishes two outcomes: 1) He feels like he’s making you happy and 2) You can get tasks accomplished in a timely manner!
3. I Want You
Yes, we’re talking intimacy, AND yes it’s that important to him. We know that for most marriages (80%) the husband’s sex drive is higher than his wife’s.
I (Laura) remember one night early in our marriage when the evening was progressing romantically. Jay leaned in and whispered, “Are you in the mood?” I said, “Sure, I’m willing.” Jay recoiled back and was disgusted by my response. He said, “I don’t want you to be “willing,” I want you to “want” to be romantic with me.”
I learned something very important that night: Willing = Obligation. Want to = Priority.
Our husbands need to know we will make our intimate life a priority!
4. I Believe In You
While the phrase, “I’m Proud of You” deals with past and present behavior, the phrase, “I Believe in You,” is all about the future.
Every man wants to matter, every man wants to make a difference, every man wants to leave his unique legacy. And believe it or not ladies you hold the keys!
Most women don’t understand the power they have to empower their husband to be everything God intended them to be. When you let your husband know you believe in him it empowers him to face the “dragons” in his world. To work hard for a promotion or to request time off to coach the kids little league team, whatever the case when he knows you are right there beside him, he will thrive!