“The common understanding of the day was if you love Jesus enough, your marriage will be happy.” – Kay Warren This thought pattern/attitude is both helpful and harmful. Helpful in that I believe it has kept marriages together. Harmful in that I believe the cost of staying together has been staggering. As Kay said in […]
It takes courage to stay married these days. We love to golf and one of our favorite golf quotes is from Tommy Armour who said: “If you want to play golf you’ve got to learn to love the struggle”. Boy is that true for golf, but it’s also true in marriage. It’s a struggle being […]
Recently on The 2018 Marriage Cruise, we were directed by Dr. Gary Chapman, to look at each other eyeball to eyeball and tell the other what we loved about them. Do you know how hard that is to do? It shouldn’t be but it is. Jay and I immediately started laughing at each other because […]
My (Jay’s) mom has a famous saying…”sorry kiddo there’s no perfection in this world!” Mostly she would say that to me when I would get disappointed because my expectations for a situation went unmet. Unmet expectations can be a real killer in relationships and are exacerbated by our culture and it’s obsession with social media, […]
Do you Celebrate Your Marriage? We mean really celebrate the gift of marriage God has given you? Often in marriage, as we walk through the day to day routine of life, we forget to celebrate the greatest gift God has bestowed on His people. For a Christian couple, marriage should be a life-long party. Yes, we understand that life […]
L is for the way you look at me O is for the only one I see V is very very extraordinary E is even more than anyone that you adore Every couple has ‘their’ song. You know that song that transports you back to when you first fell in love. For us, it was Lionel Richie’s “Stuck on […]
Are you as 100% disciplined as you’d like to be in your marriage? We figure most of you would answer “NO”. The devastating answer is that you ARE as 100% disciplined as you will EVER be! You are 100% disciplined to the good habits in your marriage and 100% disciplined to the poor habits in your marriage. The […]
We were the featured speakers at a Family Camp last summer. The Christian Reformed Conference Grounds in Grand Haven Michigan are situated right on Lake Michigan, the campsites are nestled in a grove of maple and oak trees and the grounds are a buzz with children and parents alike. Mike and Brenda Perton are the […]