Entries by Jay & Laura

Seek Rest and Find Peace

The Bible is clear in its praise for diligence, hard work, and good old sweat equity. But it also commands us to seek rest, and not to rely on our own strength. Some of the most burned-out, overstressed people can be found in the church, both volunteers and employees. Why is that? Because we have […]

Stop and Share Your Memories with Your Spouse

Stop for a moment and take stock of where you are. We are in the middle of a busy time, Christmas is right around the corner, and if we don’t take intentional steps to enjoy the season, it can easily fly by. There aren’t too many days left between now and Christmas. Take a peek […]

What is with Double sinks?

Watching TV is one way Jay and I wind down at the end of a busy day. One of our favorite shows to watch is House Hunters. We love to see the houses in different cities across the country. We love commenting on how selfish some of these people are, of course believing we are […]

Making The Most of a Messy Marriage

Let’s face it, there are times when marriage is messy. Okay, it’s messy most of the time! Let’s be honest, we’re two fallen creatures living in a fallen world trying to honor God in the midst of our mess. So we’re going to share with you 4 ways we’re all a mess and how to make […]

Sex? Check it off the list

“Ladies, this one is for you. Listen closely, sex is NOT a CHORE! Stop treating it that way. So many times we have seen a married couple portrayed as the husband wanting sex and the wife continually acting annoyed because of it. Picture it, the husband and wife are laying down in bed and the […]

Forgive So That You Might Be Forgiven!

What did Jesus come to do? He came to forgive! Luke 6:37 NIV states, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” If we are going to build a marriage around the person of Jesus, then as Ruth Bell […]

Do you do devotions together?

We get asked this question ALL the time: “Jay and Laura, do you do devotions together and don’t you think a husband and wife should?” The answer is no and no. Now before you go and think we are not spiritual or shallow, let me give you my thoughts on this question. First, Jay and […]

Staying Best Friends With Your Spouse

Think back to what it was that first attracted you to your spouse. You may have met participating in a sport, hobby, or class. You may have met on a blind date. Whatever the scenario, marriage resulted because you enjoyed being with each other. You liked each other and you became and remained friends. In […]

Declare Your “Interdependence!”

Dictionary.com defines interdependence  as, “The quality or condition of being interdependent, or mutually reliant on each other.” What a great word for marriage! The truth is, so called wedded bliss is never blissful without it! We believe every couple can enjoy the spiritual blessings of interdependence by clinging to Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. Blessing One: “Two are better than one, because they have a […]

4 Phrases Your Husband Needs To Hear

Women, here are four phrases your husband needs to hear from you that will make him feel loved, appreciated, and honored. 1. I’m Proud of You From the earliest memories men were imprinted with a proud mom when he’d walk or learn to tie a shoe or clean his room.  While you are not his […]