Often we hear from couples who listen to our daily radio feature, Celebrate Your Marriage Daily.

One listener writes:

“My wife and I have very spirited discussions. When we talk to each other in front of other people they think we are fighting, but we’re really just very adamant about our opinions. What should we do?”

Note this husband’s use of the word “spirited.”

According to the dictionary, spirited means lively and courageous.

We love that!

Our question is: how often do we have the courage to communicate to our spouse those hards things that need to be said?

Lively conversation is not detrimental to a marriage, as long as it is seasoned with love.

Like iron sharpens iron, your disagreements are an opportunity to enhance your views and opinions.


In your discussions, always seek to land on some common ground that you both hold as more important than your differences.

And don’t worry too much about what other people think about your relationship!

What matters most is that your spouse feels valued and loved no matter how passionate you are on a topic.

Proverbs 27:17
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.