I did not want to jump on the “Grey” bandwagon. I did not want to be cliché and speak out against the book or movie. I did not want to write this blog post.  However, I have read every article and blog that has come across my view concerning the release of this movie and now I feel I have to jump on the “50 Shades of Grey” bandwagon.

Let me be very clear: I have not read Fifty Shades of Grey and will not watch the movie.

It is NOT because those who do see the movie or read the book are evil.

Years ago, I made the choice to have an amazing marriage!  As part of this choice, I decided that I wold not read romance novels or watch romantic movies.  I did not want my head to be filled with a Hollywood idea of romance and love.  Instead, I chose to fill my mind with God’s truth about love and romance.

So, lets look at the FACTS about love and romance:

  1. God created sex
  2. God created man and woman
  3. God created marriage
  4. God created sex to be enjoyed by a man and a woman within marriage

We are all sexual beings.

God created us that way!  I believe that as Christians, we deny our sexual side all to often!  In dealing with married people on a daily basis, as well as being married, I know this to be a fact:

We are sexually starved in our marriages.

We have allowed kids, jobs, success, ministry, and so much more to take priority above our marriages.  We have even believed the lie that God does not want us to enjoy our sex life.  The result is that we no longer find our marriages to be sexually satisfying and we begin to look to the world for sexual satisfaction. Thus, novels and movies like Fifty Shades of Grey appear on the market and sell over 100 million copies.

100 million copies = 100 million people = 100 million sexually starved people


We MUST look to scripture to put the sexual satisfaction back into our marriages.

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.” – Hebrews 13:4

As I read this verse, I understand illicit sex and why it cannot be a part of a marriage that honors God.  However, this scripture says that God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.

God draws a firm line against CASUAL sex.

Casual: bored.. detached.. unconcerned..

God draws a firm line against boring, detached, and unconcerned sex. Especially within marriage!

Folks, how many of us are suffering from a boring sex life?  How many of us are actually thinking about meeting the needs of our spouse in the bedroom?

How many of us have given up and totally come to grips with the fact that our sex life no longer exists, and is detached (separated) from our marriage?

Wake Up Call

The release of this movie should wake us up to the fact that as Christians we need to begin to have deep honest gut wrenching conversations about sex.  God created it.  He created it to be deeply satisfying for a husband and a wife.

As Christians, we have decided to make sex a taboo topic, but in order to truly honor our spouse and be satisfied in our marriages, we HAVE to talk about sex!  It is time to break down the barriers in our small groups, life groups, Sunday classrooms, and in our worship services.

It is time to talk about sex!