How do you keep love alive?

L is for the way you look at me

O is for the only one I see

V is very very extraordinary

E is even more than anyone that you adore

Every couple has ‘their’ song. You know that song that transports you back to when you first fell in love. For us, it was Lionel Richie’s “Stuck on You”. Ah, young love.

Science tells us that when we fall in love our bodies release a hormone known as dopamine.  Aptly named eh? Science also tells us that this hormone starts to diminish after 18 months. So how do we keep love alive?

We were performing one of our Ultimate Date Nights in a small town in Ohio. The local ministerial association had joined churches together to bring us in and the event was held at the local middle school Cafetorium.  What is a Cafetorium?  It’s a large room used for a number of activities such as a cafeteria for lunch, a gymnasium for PE, and an auditorium for performances.

We were on the stage, there were chairs on the gym floor and then there were bleachers on the other side of the gym. The place was packed! We were having a great time making couples laugh and connect with each other. We noticed one particular couple was having a little too much fun.  We noticed them because there was a light that shined right down on their seating area and we also noticed them because they were all over each other. Oh, and did we mention they had to be in their mid 80’s!

After the show, we were signing books on one end of the gym and this 80 year old man vaulted over the railing that separated the gym floor from the bleachers.  His wife came scurrying up behind him with a huge grin on her face.

We said to the elderly couple “We saw you two… you were both getting a bit ‘handsy’ up there!”  Without skipping a beat she said, “That’s what keeps us young!” Then he immediately said, “You tell the youngsters to remember ­- what you did to get your spouse is what you need to do to keep your spouse.”

What sage advice!  Keep the dopamine flowing in your marriage by practicing those actions you took when you first fell in love! Date her like she’s the only girl on the planet. Flirt with him like he’s the cutest boy in school. Kiss her passionately for no reason. And whisper in his ear “I’m all yours!”

It takes work to keep the romance alive but let’s be honest, it’s FUN work. Make your marriage and the love you share last long into your 80’s and be the couple everyone looks at and says “Wow they’re still in love!”