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Declare Your Interdependence

Declare Your “Interdependence!”

Declare Your Interdependence

Dictionary.com defines interdependence  as, “The quality or condition of being interdependent, or mutually reliant on each other.” What a great word for marriage! The truth is, so called wedded bliss is never blissful without it! We believe every couple can enjoy the spiritual blessings of interdependence by clinging to Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.

Blessing One: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor” (Ecclesiastes 4:9 New International Version).

Laura and I say we have one brain between the two of us. It may not be true for everyone, but after 32 years of marriage, we find that we do our best work when we work together. We see things from different perspectives, and that allows us to see the entire picture when facing a challenge.

Blessing Two: When One Falls Down

See if you recognize this blessing of interdependence, “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up” (Ecclesiastes 4:10 NIV). One winter, I (Jay) contracted pneumonia. I slept all week so I could travel the next weekend for our Ultimate Date Night shows. Gratefully, Laura took care of everything around the house. She handled both her weekly duties and mine. There is no doubt in my mind that without her help, I would not have been able to keep my commitments each weekend.

Blessing Three: Keeping Warm

Here’s another blessing of interdependence, “Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?” (Ecclesiastes 4:11 NIV). While this passage certainly applies to cold winter nights (and maybe not so much summer ones), we also think it suggests the importance of having someone alongside you through the “cold days” life can throw at us. A spouse can speak encouraging words during tough times. A spouse can remind another spouse of God’s faithfulness in the past. And sometimes just being there,“alongside,” is enough and no words are necessary.

Blessing Four: Three Strands

A final blessing of interdependence, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:12 NIV). When we stand together, whether the issue relates to the kids or a life decision, we can stand strong. And when Christ is at the center of our relationship, it makes us even stronger. He is the third strand. Keeping Christ as the focal point of any marriage does not mean hardship will not come, but it does mean you and your spouse will have the strength to fight the battle together.

Let’s declare Interdependence in our marriages.

4 Phrases Your Husband Needs To Hear

4 Phrases Your Husband Needs To Hear

4 Phrases Your Husband Needs To Hear

Women, here are four phrases your husband needs to hear from you that will make him feel loved, appreciated, and honored.

1. I’m Proud of You

From the earliest memories men were imprinted with a proud mom when he’d walk or learn to tie a shoe or clean his room.  While you are not his MOM, as his wife you need to understand the way your approval lifts him up.  Does it have to be the word “proud?” No, but here are some examples of what I mean:

  • “Honey, I love the way you keep my car cleaned and gassed.”
  • “Thanks for going to that job I know you don’t like, it takes genuine character.”
  • “I love how you play with our kids, it makes me proud to be your wife.”

Hearing these types of phrases from you will help your husband bond with you on an emotional level.

2. I Need _________ From You

Your husband wants nothing more than to make you happy.  However, he is not a mind reader and he doesn’t get subtle hints or innuendoes…oh and one more thing…he doesn’t “just know.” It’s not how God wired him.

What he needs from you is clear and concise communication.  For example, if you say, “Honey, will you take out the trash?” To him that means at some point in the future he will take out the trash, it just may be tomorrow!  If you want him to take out the trash now, then the proper way to communicate is to say, “Honey, will you take out the trash now?”  Then he will answer “yes” or “no.”

Communicating in a clear and concise manner accomplishes two outcomes: 1) He feels like he’s making you happy and 2) You can get tasks accomplished in a timely manner!

3. I Want You

Yes, we’re talking intimacy, AND yes it’s that important to him.  We know that for most marriages (80%) the husband’s sex drive is higher than his wife’s.

I (Laura) remember one night early in our marriage when the evening was progressing romantically.  Jay leaned in and whispered, “Are you in the mood?” I said, “Sure, I’m willing.” Jay recoiled back and was disgusted by my response.  He said, “I don’t want you to be “willing,” I want you to “want” to be romantic with me.”

I learned something very important that night: Willing = Obligation. Want to = Priority.

Our husbands need to know we will make our intimate life a priority!

4. I Believe In You

While the phrase, “I’m Proud of You” deals with past and present behavior, the phrase, “I Believe in You,” is all about the future.

Every man wants to matter, every man wants to make a difference, every man wants to leave his unique legacy.  And believe it or not ladies you hold the keys!

Most women don’t understand the power they have to empower their husband to be everything God intended them to be.  When you let your husband know you believe in him it empowers him to face the “dragons” in his world.  To work hard for a promotion or to request time off to coach the kids little league team, whatever the case when he knows you are right there beside him, he will thrive!

Events

Celebrate Your Marriage – October 2019

 Join us to Celebrate Your Marriage

You Don’t Want to Miss This

Held at luxurious Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island, Michigan, the schedule ensures there’s plenty of connecting time for the two of you. The Laffoons’ Celebrate Your Marriage Conference is designed to be an incredible two-day retreat just for you and your spouse.

Your hosts, Jay & Laura Laffoon

Using true stories, interviews, research, and years of experience, the Laffoons equip couples with the tools they need to nurture one another. Combining humor, music, and lots of honesty, the Jay & Laura’s “Celebrate Your Marriage” is designed for married couples of all ages. Meet Jay & Laura.

Special Guest: TBA

 

SCHEDULE

Sunday, October 6th, 2019

3:30pm: Complementary Coffee, Tea and Lemonade. Doors open to session.
4:00pm: Opening Session presented by Jay & Laura Laffoon
6:30pm: Dinner in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)
9:00pm: The Ultimate Date Night with Jay & Laura and featuring our special guest!

Monday, October 7th, 2019

7:30am: Breakfast in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)
9:00am: Wake Up & Celebrate! Session featuring our special guest
10:30am: Complementary Coffee, Tea and Lemonade.
11:00am: Closing Session presented by Jay & Laura Laffoon
12:30pm: The Grand Luncheon Buffet in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

Optional Add-On Schedule

Monday

6:30pm: Private Dinner with Jay & Laura
A message from Jay & Laura over dessert.
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

Tuesday

7:30am: Breakfast in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

10:00am: Grand Hotel Tour TBA

11:00am: Wrap Up

Schedule is subject to change

Pricing Details

Price Deadline: Thru Aug 5 Aug 6 thru Sep 5 Sep 6 thru Oct 6
Conference Tickets $69/person $89/person $99/person
Post-conference Add-on $49/person $49/person $49/person

ACCOMMODATIONS

2019 Grand Hotel Room Rate will be available late 2018. The 2018 Grand Hotel Room Rate for Celebrate with Jay & Laura was $140 plus taxes per person daily based on double occupancy. 19.5% hotel added charge and Michigan 6% Sales Tax applies to all charges. There is also a 2% Mackinac Island Assessment charge on the per person daily room. There is a one-time charge of $8.50 per person for transfer of luggage from the dock to the Hotel and return.

Grand Hotel operates on the Modified American Plan. This means that your daily rate includes breakfast and dinner. The Grand Luncheon Buffet is also included in the rate for day two of the conference only. You will reserve your room directly with Grand Hotel with a special form by email, fax or postal mail after you register for the event. A link to the room reservation form will be included on your confirmation email.

Please note: Grand Hotel charges an admission fee of $10/person unless you are a registered guest of the Hotel.

Celebrate Your Marriage – May 2019

 Join us to Celebrate Your Marriage

You Don’t Want to Miss This

Held at luxurious Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island, Michigan, the schedule ensures there’s plenty of connecting time for the two of you. The Laffoons’ Celebrate Your Marriage Conference is designed to be an incredible two-day retreat just for you and your spouse.

Your hosts, Jay & Laura Laffoon

Using true stories, interviews, research, and years of experience, the Laffoons equip couples with the tools they need to nurture one another. Combining humor, music, and lots of honesty, the Jay & Laura’s “Celebrate Your Marriage” is designed for married couples of all ages. Meet Jay & Laura.

Special Guest: Joe Castillo, Sand Story Artist

Joe Castillo is an expert on crafting a story in the best way. He has applied his creative genius to the challenge of communication. His unique content stimulates the mind, creative SandStories capture the eye, powerful music engages the ear and success stories grip the heart.

Joe is a gifted speaker, entertaining and captivating hundreds of thousands of people. He has mastered the ability to share his art stories in a way that inspires, motivates and touches the heart.

Learn more about Joe at Sandstory.com

SCHEDULE

Sunday, May 19th, 2019

3:30pm: Complementary Coffee, Tea and Lemonade. Doors open to session.
4:00pm: Opening Session presented by Jay & Laura Laffoon
6:30pm: Dinner in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)
9:00pm: The Ultimate Date Night with Jay & Laura and featuring Joe Castillo!

Monday, May 20th, 2019

7:30am: Breakfast in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)
9:00am: Wake Up & Celebrate! Session featuring Joe Castillo
10:30am: Complementary Coffee, Tea and Lemonade.
11:00am: Closing Session presented by Jay & Laura Laffoon
12:30pm: The Grand Luncheon Buffet in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

Optional Add-On Schedule

Monday

6:30pm: Private Dinner with Jay & Laura
A message from Jay & Laura over dessert.
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

Tuesday

7:30am: Breakfast in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

10:00am: Grand Hotel Tour TBA

11:00am: Wrap Up

Schedule is subject to change

Pricing Details

Price Deadline: Thru Mar 18 Mar 19 thru Apr 18 Apr 18 thru May 19
Conference Tickets $69/person $89/person $99/person
Post-conference Add-on $49/person $49/person $49/person

ACCOMMODATIONS

2019 Grand Hotel Room Rate will be available late 2018. The 2018 Grand Hotel Room Rate for Celebrate with Jay & Laura was $140 plus taxes per person daily based on double occupancy. 19.5% hotel added charge and Michigan 6% Sales Tax applies to all charges. There is also a 2% Mackinac Island Assessment charge on the per person daily room. There is a one-time charge of $8.50 per person for transfer of luggage from the dock to the Hotel and return.

Grand Hotel operates on the Modified American Plan. This means that your daily rate includes breakfast and dinner. The Grand Luncheon Buffet is also included in the rate for day two of the conference only. You will reserve your room directly with Grand Hotel with a special form by email, fax or postal mail after you register for the event. A link to the room reservation form will be included on your confirmation email.

Please note: Grand Hotel charges an admission fee of $10/person unless you are a registered guest of the Hotel.

Celebrate Your Marriage – October 2018

 

Join us to Celebrate Your Marriage
Presented by Thrivent Financial

You Don’t Want to Miss This

Held at luxurious Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island, Michigan, the schedule ensures there’s plenty of connecting time for the two of you. The Laffoons’ Celebrate Your Marriage Conference is designed to be an incredible two-day retreat just for you and your spouse.

Your hosts, Jay & Laura Laffoon

Using true stories, interviews, research, and years of experience, the Laffoons equip couples with the tools they need to nurture one another. Combining humor, music, and lots of honesty, the Jay & Laura’s “Celebrate Your Marriage” is designed for married couples of all ages. Meet Jay & Laura.

Special Guests: Gary & Lisa Heim, True North Ministries

Gary & Lisa authored True North which offers a unique, biblical paradigm that encourages readers to turn to God in the frustrations of life. Frustration often causes us to “go south.” We grumble and grasp. God calls us to “go north” and respond to hardship with wisdom and redemptive love. Combining biblical insight with personal stories, practical help, and compelling examples, True North will help readers turn from self-centered grumbling and grasping to Christ-centered gratitude and giving.

Gary is pastor of small groups and discipleship at Blythefield Hills Church in Rockford, Michigan where he has served for over twenty years. He is also a Limited Licensed Psychologist in the state of Michigan.

Lisa is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Michigan where she has had a private practice for the last twenty-five years.

Gary and Lisa have been married for over 30 years and have two adult children. Together they speak, lead retreats, counsel and write to help people find their way through the struggles of life.

Special Guests: Free Shrugs Improv

More than a complimentary lift of the shoulders, Free Shrugs Improv is a team of performers dedicated to providing clean comedy and family friendly entertainment. Their presentation includes an interactive series of skits and games based on your suggestions. The result is an experience of hilarious fun and laughter you won’t soon forget!

SCHEDULE

Sunday, October 7th, 2018

3:30pm: Complementary Coffee, Tea and Lemonade. Doors open to session.
4:00pm: Opening Session presented by Jay & Laura Laffoon
6:30pm: Dinner in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)
9:00pm: The Ultimate Date Night with Jay & Laura and featuring Free Shrugs Clean Comedy Improv!

Monday, October 8th, 2018

7:30am: Breakfast in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)
9:00am: Wake Up & Celebrate! Session featuring Gary & Lisa Heim
10:30am: Complementary Coffee, Tea and Lemonade.
11:00am: Closing Session presented by Jay & Laura Laffoon
12:30pm: The Grand Luncheon Buffet in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

Optional Add-On Schedule

Monday

2:00pm: *Behind the Scenes Tour with Grand Hotel Historian, Bob Tagatz (*Limited to 12 couples – tickets available 9/24/18.)

6:30pm: Private Dinner with Jay & Laura in the Grand Pavilion
A message from Jay & Laura over dessert.
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

Tuesday

7:30am: Breakfast in the Main Dining Room
(included for couples staying at Grand Hotel)

9:00am: Wake Up & Celebrate! Session 2 featuring Gary & Lisa Heim

10:00am: “Movies on Mackinac” presented by Grand Hotel Historian, Bob Tagatz

11:00am: Wrapping it all up with Jay & Laura

Schedule is subject to change

Pricing Details

Price Deadline: Thru Aug 6 Aug 7 thru Sep 6 Sep 7 thru Oct 7
Conference Tickets $69/person $89/person $99/person
Post-conference Add-on $49/person $49/person $49/person

ACCOMMODATIONS

2018 Grand Hotel Room Rate for Celebrate with Jay & Laura is $140 plus taxes per person daily based on double occupancy. 19.5% hotel added charge and Michigan 6% Sales Tax applies to all charges. There is also a 2% Mackinac Island Assessment charge on the per person daily room. There is a one-time charge of $8.50 per person for transfer of luggage from the dock to the Hotel and return.

Grand Hotel operates on the Modified American Plan. This means that your daily rate includes breakfast and dinner. The Grand Luncheon Buffet is also included in the rate for day two of the conference only. You will reserve your room directly with Grand Hotel with a special form by email, fax or postal mail after you register for the event.  A link to the room reservation form will be included on your confirmation email.

Please note: Grand Hotel charges an admission fee of $10/person unless you are a registered guest of the Hotel.

REGISTRATION PROCESS

STEP #1

STEP #2

Receive email confirmation and your 2018 Grand Hotel Room Reservation Form. Submit your form to reserve your room at Grand Hotel.

STEP #3

Receive email notice with a link to your discount ferry coupon. Buy your ferry tickets and check the schedule to plan your trip to Mackinac Island.

STEP #4

Join us at Grand Hotel! Registration is open at the hotel from 1:00pm – 4:00pm in the Art Gallery.