I (Jay) play in golf scrambles with a flat bellied 30 something named Ryan. I’m the “safety” guy. I tee off first. My job is to put the ball in play so the flat bellies can let it rip. And when it comes to putting I’m “The Closer” because I can roll the ball very well and if my team mates give me three good looks at a putt…well let’s just say they keep inviting me back for a reason. The first time I played with with this group we shot 19 under par. We had 8 eagle putts….
The most amazing shot of the day came from Ryan. We were looking at a 340 yard par 4. It was uphill and into a 20mph wind. Ryan hit a laser shot that wound up on the green…AMAZING! The reason I love playing in golf Scrambles with “The Kids” is because I know my role on the team. I don’t have to pretend to be anything that I’m not, I have three roles:
- Put my tee shot in play
- Make putts no one else can
- Keep the mood light
Our golf team works because everyone knows their role! The same can be true in a good marriage! Roles in marriage however should never be determined solely by gender. Don’t get me wrong, I’m never going to birth a baby! And in our house Laura NEVER cleans up vomit. She has a gag reflex when she hears or sees someone vomiting which results in Laura tossing her cookies! In good marriages personality and gifting help a couple determine who fills what role. Remember you and your spouse are a team! When you determine roles based on personality and gifting it allows your “team” to SCORE!